When a friend is struggling with mental health issues, it can be challenging to know how to offer support. We often want to help but worry about saying or doing the wrong thing. However, having a supportive friend can make a significant difference in their journey. So, how can you best support a friend during this difficult time?
If you have someone in your life who is struggling with grief, depression, divorce, a partner with substance abuse, PTSD, or ongoing mental health issues it is always better to reach out and say something than to do nothing. Here are some helpful ideas of how to reach out.
ASK HOW YOU CAN HELP
Checking in with your loved one, by phone or in person is always a good first step. Let them say as little or as much as they want about what they are struggling with. Ask how you can help or if they would just like you to listen to them. Sometimes venting is all they may need or perhaps they want input. If you aren’t sure, ask. It’s always better to ask if you aren’t sure about what they need.
VALIDATE WHAT THEY SAY TO SHOW YOU ARE LISTENING AND CARE
Show them or tell them you understand and are there to help listen or to help them solve a problem. Saying things like: “I hear you. I see how awful you must be feeling. I can tell you are really struggling” are some good suggestions for openings to a conversation. By validating what they are saying you help them to feel understood and heard.
BE THERE WHEN THEY NEED YOU
Be there when they need you but be sure to put up boundaries if you need to. It is easy to fall into the trap of overdoing or enabling someone’s problems. I’s OK to let the person know when you are and aren’t available.
CHECK IN OFTEN
If your loved one is struggling checking in daily with a caring text or call can go a long way for someone who is struggling. Personally, I like to send cards to people when they are going through hard times. When a loved one is struggling I tend to send flowers because flowers are always a beautiful pick-me-up.
TALK ABOUT SELF CARE
Self care is always needed for positive mental health. Ask your loved one to go for a walk or a drive. Suggest other forms of self care such as massages, pedicures, a warm bath, or a good, healthy meal.
HELP THEM SEEK ADDITIONAL SUPPORT
If the mental health issue seems as though it could use professional help, offer to help find a therapist and even offer to go to the first session if you are able to.
Being there for someone who is struggling with mental health issues is one of the most impactful things you can do. Your support, understanding, and presence can make a world of difference, even when you might not have all the answers. Remember, it’s not about being perfect or knowing exactly what to say—it’s about showing up, listening, and offering kindness. By doing so, you’re helping to create a space where your loved one feels safe, valued, and supported on their journey to healing. So, don’t hesitate to reach out, be patient, and take care of yourself along the way too. Together, we can make a difference.
If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, contact me today to schedule your first appointment and start your journey towards healing.
In Kindness,
MM