by Melissa Muller | Oct 15, 2025 | Marriage, Relationships
After 27 years of practicing psychology and working with thousands of individuals, couples, and families, I’ve noticed consistent patterns that appear in relationships — both healthy and struggling ones. Over time, I’ve identified what I call the Five Characteristics...
by Melissa Muller | Apr 15, 2025 | Mental Health, Positive Thinking, Relationships
In life, we often carry a basket filled with “rocks” of resentment—each one representing a past hurt, betrayal, or disappointment. I love the image of a basket because it’s a simple way to think about all the weight we hold onto without even realizing it. How full is...
by Melissa Muller | Sep 4, 2024 | Mental Health, Family Support, Relationships
When a friend is struggling with mental health issues, it can be challenging to know how to offer support. We often want to help but worry about saying or doing the wrong thing. However, having a supportive friend can make a significant difference in their journey....
by Melissa Muller | Aug 14, 2024 | Marriage, Relationships
Jen and Bruce came to my office for an initial session. Bruce seemed to be angry and Jen was very emotional. I told them my spiel about myself and how I work. I then began the initial interview. I gathered their background information and then asked why they were...
by Melissa Muller | Feb 10, 2020 | Relationships
Have you ever considered who you trust most in your life? The Circle of Trust exercise is a powerful tool for examining the depth of your relationships and understanding your levels of trust. This exercise, which involves identifying individuals in your inner, middle,...
by Melissa Muller | Oct 10, 2019 | Marriage, Relationships
Relationships are like gardens, requiring constant nurturing and attention to flourish. Just as a neglected garden becomes overrun with weeds, a relationship left unattended can deteriorate. I’ve learned this firsthand in my own marriage and through my work with...
